Stop That “Not Enough” Feeling: Reprogram the Subconscious for Quiet Confidence

Amanda Wild on calming anxiety, rewiring impostor syndrome and leading with grounded presence.

That feeling of “never enough” can follow you even when you’re doing objectively well — promotions, praise, wins — and it often shows up as anxiety, imposter syndrome, or relentless negative self-talk in moments that matter. In this episode, Amanda Wilde and I unpack why this isn’t just a mindset issue; it’s often a hardwired subconscious pattern that’s been reinforced over time, quietly shaping how you feel and lead.

Amanda’s company provides the MINDTRX app, which I’ve been experimenting with for the past few months. I’ve been fascinated by the way it can shift my automatic thoughts — and even the way I feel — in challenging leadership situations, especially when pressure is high and my mind wants to default to old stories.

Amanda and I talk about how nervous-system regulation changes everything for introverted leaders: when you’re calm in your body, confidence becomes something that emerges naturally, not something to be forced. From there, we cover what “reprogramming” can look like in practical terms with a tool like MINDTRX: consistent, repeatable, and genuinely relaxing listening sessions that help replace the old “I’m not enough” loop with steadier internal beliefs, so you can show up with presence in meetings and high-pressure situations.

We also explore the idea of quiet personal magnetism — influence that comes from grounded clarity rather than volume — and why leading with service expands your sphere of influence over time.

If you want to try the app we discussed, use this link for a 7-day trial ; disclosure: this is an affiliate link, so if you use it and it results in a qualifying sign-up or purchase, I may earn a commission at no extra cost to you.